Posts Tagged ‘optimism’

A lone tree in the Painted Desert State Park. Somewhere on the scenic route in Arizona

A Lone tree in Painted Desert State Park. Somewhere on the scenic route in Arizona

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.              
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

I see my path, but I don’t know where it leads. Not knowing where I’m going is what inspires me to travel it.
-Rosalia de Castro

I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we’re all teachers – if we’re willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door.        

-Marla Gibbs

When I was a kid, my Mu-Mu would ask if we wanted to take the long way home. It always meant taking the scenic route and we always said YES! We lived by Lake Michigan, and the long way included some truly gorgeous views of waves, dunes and sunsets. It was taking a moment to enjoy the surroundings. No rush. No where to be. No pressure. The sole purpose of the moment was to soak in the good stuff. 

I have been thinking about this lately. Somewhere a long the way, the definition of the long way has changed for me. It now means making mistakes, wrong turns, lost in a maze that I should have figured my way out of already. Should have done this, should have done that. It gets old should’n all over yourself.

So what happened to bring on such a drastic change? I think I got off track with the lil factor of intention. The long way is lovely if you choose that path. If you do not have the time, are feeling pressure to get somewhere and somehow find yourself on the long way home it does not have the same feel. Less “Oh look, that cloud is shaped like bunny!” and more “Where the hell am I?” Clearly, our Adventure/Responsibility ratio changes as we get older. This is inevitable. Cleaning our room just does not carry the same weight as the mortgage is due. However, that does not mean we just let responsibility squash our need for adventure.

Realistically, how often does life go just like you plan anyway? For me, it is pretty rare(admittedly this might have something to do with having two kiddos but a good portion of it is just life). My point is this, when the long way shows up, it is not necessarily a bad thing. It could be an adventure waiting to happen or yes, even a cloud waiting to be noticed(Psst…it is the one that looks like a bunny). Maybe the more we embrace the long way, the more we not only look for the good stuff but actually find it.

Have a nice day (o:


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Moment2smile Ducks

3 Ducks enjoying the day during my bike ride.
Random Creek. -Munster, In

“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball

“Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today.”
– Benjamin Franklin

“Do something every day that is loving toward your body and gives you the opportunity to enjoy the sensations of your body.”
-Golda Poretsky

“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.”
-Deborah Day

You ever get to the grocery store and know that you are forgetting to pick up something. You cover every aisle from produce to toilet paper but that nagging voice is still saying you have forgotten a highly important item like hot dog buns. You drive home, put the groceries away, start on dinner and *&$*$& you realize that you have indeed forgotten the said item and try to decide if you can go without it for tonight.
This happens to me quite frequently. I personally blame sugar and ADD. No worries though, I have learned to conquer this challenge with my beloved lists. Thank God for lists. They organize my days and make me feel very accomplished. Oh the glorious goodness that I feel when I check something off my list. I try to be realistic with my lists, because I find if I have too many items still left on it at the end of the day, it pops my positive bubble. I learned to narrow it down to a few things and throw in a couple of things that I always get done, like brush my teeth or feed my child. That way I maximize my productivity aura.

I noticed the other day though that my lists were filling up with the day to day chores. I was talking to a close friend of mine who was speaking about how she had felt swallowed up by all of the things she had to do in a day. Her days had filled up with all of the to do’s that she felt like there was no time for her. In fact who was she anymore? She couldn’t remember. I thought you need to put your self on the list. And then that nagging voice who forgot the hot dog buns started saying to me that I should take my own advice. Damn voice.

I looked at my recent to do lists and noticed they had been filled up with taking care of a bunch of people/things, except me. I know this lesson. I talk about it a lot and yet, there I was doing the same thing. Where had my bike rides gone? I am sure I have talked before about my excessive love for my polk-a-dot bike(PolkySpot). It is one of my many favorite past times, one of those activities that clear my head and make me feel sane. And then the pedal broke. In my defense, I tried to fix it. In fact, it went on the list. I googled and watched youtube videos but none of it worked, and there Polkyspot sat. Then I had to move the bike out of the way to make room for the camping gear, and the pedal got thrown into the back of my car(A scary place where there maybe a secret society of gnomes living happily and I would never know about it. Shudder at the thought.). Long story short, Fixing the bike got put off the list and a shocking thing happened, the list filled up with other things. Oh there are always other things. If you let it happen, you can easily get swallowed up by the to do’s and forget the you’s. See what I did there? I rhymed, impressive…

I decided I needed to be put on the list. Here is the thing. If we do not make time for ourselves we start to feel run down, our energy is being used but not refilled. Eventually you collapse or walk around like a shell of yourself. Life seems that much more difficult when you are running on fumes. However, if you make the time for yourself, you not only work more efficiently, you teach others to respect your needs and their own.

So what did I do after thinking about all of this? I attached the new pedals to my bike and went for a ride. 30 Seconds into it, I was out of breath. I thought to myself, “I should not have had that last piece of birthday cake, and man I am out of shape!” I happened to look down and notice that polkyspot’s tires were in desperate need of air! Eureka! I rode to the gas station, filled the tires up and took off. It was amazing what a difference adding the air made. Not only was I able to breath but the bike ride was fun. Maybe that last piece of birthday cake wasn’t so bad. Taking time for yourself to reenergize is just like making it a priority to refill the tires. You may feel like you do not have time for a fill up because you have other things to do, but you will get much more done and more likely enjoy the process if you make sure you/your bike are properly taken care of. Imagine that. Going to add learning this lesson again to my to do list.

Enjoy your day (o:

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Moment2smile Beauty is Everywhere

An Alligator following me as I walked a bridge in Palmdale, Florida.

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
-Wayne Dyer

“Every choice you make has an end result.”
-Zig Ziglar

“Every man builds his world in his own image. He has the power to choose, but no power to escape the necessity of choice.”
-Ayn Rand

“Choose your love, Love your choice.”
-Thomas S. Monson

Every day is filled with choices: Choices about how we view situations around us, choices about what actions we will take or not take, choices on how we view other people and more importantly how we view ourselves. Those choices are where our power lies. It is in this moment right now that we have the ability to decide our direction. It is in the consistent moments that defines who we are. If a path is chosen over and over again, we begin to identify with it.

Now We all struggle with this. We make choices that we know do not help us. We choose to stay in ____________(relationships, careers, habits, beliefs) that deplete us because settling feels less scary than growing. Then there are many aspects of life that are out of our control. Something will happen that throws us off our game and we feel knocked down. We put focus on that something and next thing you know it feels like we are getting hit from all sides. When it rains it pours, right? Well Yes, life can be chaotic. There is no getting around that. However, if we choose to put our focus on the chaos, than we are looking away from what we do have control of.

Here is the trick. Look around at your life and take responsibility. Look at the choices that have influenced your current situation. Even Look at the choices that influence how you view your current situation. If you are not satisfied with the way your life is right now, than it is time to make some different choices. Start with little steps at first. You might be surprised how a few steps away from or toward your path makes a tremendous difference in how you feel. The good news is we are never too far from our path to find it again. How could you lose something that lies in you? The happier you are with your choices, the more you will feel empowered to take on bigger goals. It is a matter of listening to that quiet voice inside and then aligning your choices in life so that who you dream to be coincides with who you are. It all starts with what you choose right now.

Much love (o:

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Come What May

Moment2smile Surviving

Trees buried under Mt. Baldy sand dune. -Michigan City, In.

“Endurance is not just the ability to bear a hard thing, but to turn it into glory.”
-William Barclay

“The men who learn endurance, are they who call the whole world, brother.”
-Charles Dickens

“Come what may, all bad fortune is to be conquered by endurance.”

“Endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines, but it is to the one who endures that the final victory comes.”

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